Lately, everywhere I turn, someone is expecting their #2. So, I thought I’d put together a short list of tips/observations/what to expects from a mom who — 5 years later — remembers the transition well.
- Remember when your first was a newborn and you had that video camera in hand recording your 5 day old baby doing a whole lot of nothing? Well, when #2 comes, you will not be recording your baby’s adorable yawns. Instead, you will be dealing with/tending to your #1, and #2 will hang out in the bouncy seat — ignored, yes — and guess what? The ignored #2 will turn out a-m-a-z-i-n-g. If only I had been able to ignore my first…
- When your mom or friend or partner takes your older child out and you are left to care for just the baby, you will feel as if you are on a vacation. You will realize that all that baby does is sleep, eat, pee and poo, and that caring for a newborn only is easy peezy. How the heck was it so damn hard when you had your first, you will say. It just is. We all go through it.
- Enlist as much help as possible. It will be hard at the beginning, and having a supportive network of family and friends, or hired help, makes a huge difference. It does get easier though. For me, a huge turning point was when my baby turned 1 (and my older one, 3). That’s when they turned into playmates (and I could finally start to ignore both of them).
- When your first was a baby, you may have signed him up for music class, taken him to playdates and done all sorts of fun things to celebrate being a new mom. #2 will get no such fanfare. He will just tag along to #1′s classes and playdates. Nor will there be any framed photographs of baby #2 on the mantel until at least his or her first birthday. Again, all of this is fine. Just watch how awesome he/she turns out without all the fanfare.
- 2′s are amazing. Prepare to fall in love.